Take in Every Moment

The year is over halfway gone already, can you believe it!? Everyone gets so hyped at the start of a new year; they make resolutions in many areas of their lives. I say, what about a mid-year resolution? Its never too late to start!

"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. The tragedy is that we ignore so much of it in the interest of getting to the real stuff."
-Annie Dillard

me: guilty

Resolution: Appreciate the daily, mundane, everyday small stuff in life.

Being a Mom

Being a parent is hard. Our children go through so many things in this world and we have to try our best to help them get through it.  Although this was years ago, sometimes good advice is timeless. Our kids may grow up, but we never outgrow our role as a parent.

2011

Girl Drama

My older daughter is in the 5th grade, and the drama has begun with serious momentum. I have known it was coming, but expecting it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. These little girls are so confused and self-absorbed and insecure that my heart goes out to them. At the same time, I just want to take my little girl away from it all for the next few years!

It was a very hard time for me in my childhood, and I want to do whatever it takes to make it bearable for my two girls. I don't know how, but here are my thoughts:

1. I will listen and empathize without minimizing their feelings. Even though it is silly to those of us who have come through it and are on the other side, to an 11-year-old, it is a big deal. However, that is not to say that I won't help my girls to see a bigger picture and determine for themselves that what the girls say and how they treat each other from day to day (which is ever-changing) doesn't define my girls nor is it even about them most of the time.

2. I will encourage them to be involved in church activities, as well as other activities that broaden their social network. This is a good way to to get away from the ubiquitous cliques at school and see that there is more to life than who is popular and who is best friends with whom at their home-away-from-home.

3. I will teach them how to find the best in others and to make others feel special. After all, isn't that what these little girls are looking for? Acceptance? Assurance? If my girls can understand where these others are coming from and offer them acceptance and assurance, then they will probably be liked without quite as much drama. (This is a theory.)

4. I will encourage my girls to not enable another girl's pouting or attention-getting and to not be sucked in to gossiping themselves. Since I will be assuring and accepting them at home for who they are, I will also be cheering them on when they choose to take the higher road in these situations at school.

5. I will teach my daughters that their worth comes from God, not from their peers' opinions and whims. God loves all these little girls with all of their stuff, and a good grasp of that understanding could keep a girl from falling prey to self-doubt brought upon by gossip and fickleness.

6. I will always do whatever it takes to keep the communication lines wide open between my daughters and me. They will know that their mother is always available to discuss what is going on in their lives, and that she cares.

 

Life Purpose

What is the purpose of your life?

My ambition is dwindling to nothing, because I have come to realize that is it ego-driven, and that it is not the way to fulfill my purpose. I have learned that I am not the author of my life, God is. I am witnessing God doing HUGE things in the world right now, and beautiful things in my life. 

All I want is to be some part of whatever He is up to in whatever way He wishes to use me.

That is my purpose.

Through a Child's Eyes

A Mother's Day Poem by Caroline Carey 

(Circa May 2011)

Mom

Funny, soothing, pretty and outgoing

Mother of Eliza and Caroline (me)

Lover of children, puppies, and cookies

Who feels joyful, energetic, and fun

Who needs love, happiness, and fun

Who finds happiness in art, sewing, and children

Who would like to see a clean house, the Eiffle tower, and Rome

Who fears horror movies, snakes, and spiders

Who enjoys giving, acting, and Mountain biking

Who likes to wear her green sweat pants, stylish cloths and lots of shoes

Lori Carey

Through a Child's Eyes

It's hard to believe this was 6 years ago already! Man how time flies. 

May 5, 2011

-New School Concerns of a 7 Year Old-

Today we went to the Catholic for a site visit, because we are considering enrolling our girls there for next year. Last night, when the girls couldn't get to sleep, I suggested they make a list of questions they might want to ask the principal at St. Andrew tomorrow. Here is Eliza's list of questions: (she is 7)

(written with her grammar and spelling intact)

1. What do the uniforms look like?

2. Do you get candy when you do something good?

3. is it fun?

4. Do we go to a Sunday School?

5. is the teacher nice?

6. can parents come to lunch with you?

7. Will I like the uniforms?

8. Will the kids in my class be nice?

9. do we go on field trips?

10. is there a music teacher?

11. do we go to difforent classes?

12. do we get holaday off?

13. how many reasseses do we have

14. do we have lockers?

Through a Child's Eyes

Hey Y'all

This is going to be a new blog series of poems, stories, and sayings from my girls when they were little. I think there is always something we can learn from our children. They add humor, joy, and insight to our lives. Enjoy these tidbits from my little ones, I hope they add a smile and a laugh to your day.

"Ode to Dad" by Caroline Carey (age 11)

Pal,

You shine so brite

You are as breezy as a kite.

You love, not fite.

You don't smell like shite.

You are most of the time rite.

You are the bestest dad.

(P.S. Your pants are kinda tight.)

 

Caroline

Faith Forward Friday

You are UNIQUE! God made you that way! We say, "Don't compare apples to oranges," but we do it ALL. THE. TIME. when we compare ourselves to those around us.
God does not intend for us to fulfill a role He has for someone else, so we have to stop trying to be other people! He created THEM, to fulfill THEIR purpose, YOU were made for YOURS. Trust that He has given you what you need to fulfill your unique purpose.

"Stop playing the comparison game; no one wins." 

Mindset Monday

Let's start of this week with an exercise to get you in the right mindset: 

I have a challenge for you fabulous ladies!!
I want you to commit to 21 days of a new habit.
The challenge is this:
Every morning for 21 days, grab your journal ( or notebook or whatever) and the first thing upon waking up, write down three things you are grateful for. Each day for 21 days, you will write three different things you are grateful for. 
Then, after writing your three things, spend 5-10 minutes asking God what your direction is for the day.
Sometimes, you will get a clear direction, which is freakin' awesome!! Other times, you won't, so when this happens, just go abut your day according to your priorities.
Just starting your day out with gratitude will transform your attitude! I promise!!
Love to you all...

Lori